Using FamZoo with Parental Controls

Configuring Safe Eyes for FamZooMany of our families use some form of parental control software to help ensure a safe browsing experience for their kids. The most common examples include Safe Eyes and Mac Parental Controls. In some cases, you’ll need to explicitly enable access to more than just the main FamZoo site to get things to work properly. For example, you may notice that your kids cannot check off items on their checklists when the parental controls are in force. If you’re seeing problems, try adding each of the following web addresses to your list of explicitly enabled sites:

  • www.famzoo.com - this is where our public pages (like our home page) reside.
  • app.famzoo.com - this is where our private application pages (like your family’s Overview page) reside.
  • ajax.googleapis.com - we rely on some nerdy external files (javascript libraries, CSS files, etc.) to run our application. The files come from this Google server.
  • 1e100.net - similar to the entry just above, it turns out this is also a Google address. (Talk about nerdy, the name refers to the scientific notation for a “googol” which is 1 followed by a hundred zeros. For the super curious, you can find more info on how Google uses this domain here.)
  • www.google-analytics.com - we use the Google Analytics service to keep stats on which pages in our application are being used most frequently. Its files come from this server.

FamZoo Facebook Live Stream AdNote that if you sign into FamZoo as a parent, we’ll often show our latest FamZoo Facebook activity in the right hand side bar. (We never show it to kids who are signed into FamZoo.) Usually, the sidebar item will just show some message about it’s content being blocked, but we have seen this interfere with the proper loading of the page in some browsers. In this case, you may have to access your parent FamZoo account from outside your parental controls or from within a parental control account that does not have Facebook blocked.

If you add the sites above and still experience problems using FamZoo with safe browsing software, please contact us. We’ll help you get to the bottom of it.


Book Smart vs Birds, Bees, and Bank Smart: Family Finance Picks #62

It’s all about the B’s this week: books, birds, bees, and (virtual) banks.

Highly Educated Have Biggest Debt Problems

Book Smart Doesn't Equal MoneySmartIt seems logical that the “highly educated” would have a leg up when it comes to managing their money, right?

Wrong. Don’t confuse “book smart” with “money smart.” One definitely doesn’t imply the other.

Dan describes a recent study showing that “highly educated Americans were most likely to take on unmanageable debt in the pre-crisis years.”

Read about it here.

Related FamZoo Activity: Make sure your child is money smart, too. Start a virtual family bank.
Discuss on FaceBook.

New Sex Ed Program Focuses on Personal Responsibility

Birds, Bees, and BankIt’s been said that the money conversation with kids is harder than the sex conversation for parents. Awkward!

Lindsay writes about a new Personal Responsibility Education Program for 10 to 18 year olds that attacks both birds with one stone. Perhaps a super clear picture of what it really costs — both actual costs and opportunity costs — to raise a baby will help the decision making in those under-developed teen frontal lobes.

Read about the PREP program here.

Discuss on FaceBook.

A Virtual Bank for the Kid’s Allowance

The Bank of SkyvaraLast month, the New York Times picked up the virtual family bank story. Last week, it came to public radio. Kai Ryssdal, host of the popular Marketplace radio program, describes how Suzanne Skyvara and her husband use a virtual banking site to teach their kids good money habits.

Guess which virtual bank site the Skyvaras use? That’s right: FamZoo. Woot!

At the end of the segment, Beth Kobliner asserts that virtual family banks will just cause kids to spend more, not less.


In the comment section of the online article, Suzanne responds directly to Beth’s concerns. She writes: “Our experience has been the exact opposite. Our kids — who are featured in this story — actually save a lot! They have specific accounts they have set up to save for big ticket items (like a computer), for college and also for charity donations.”

Suzanne’s experience matches what we’ve heard from other FamZoo families: once kids start managing their own finite pool of money and making specific savings goals, they tend to become very frugal. They’ll voluntarily cut out miscellaneous purchases that are not aligned with their goals. An excellent unsolicited example we received illustrating this effect can be found here.

Of course, unlike some other sites, we don’t marry our virtual family bank with a storefront. Perhaps that was the crux of Beth’s concern.

Listen to the Marketplace podcast or read the transcript here.

Related FamZoo Activity: Set up a savings goal.
Discuss on FaceBook.

We’re constantly scouring the Internet looking for articles related to family finances and teaching kids good personal finance habits. You can visit our ever growing list of family finance bookmarks here. We’re up to 2,967 now!


Boomerang Boom, Cheap Money Talk, and Powerful Money Stories: Family Finance Picks #61

This week’s family finance picks includes the latest stats on the boomerang boom and two articles on talking about money with your kids. On the one hand, money talk by itself can be cheap. On the other, family money stories can be quite valuable.

Sound contradictory? Read on:

Who’s Moving In? Adult Kids, Aging Parents

Avoid the BoomerangBoomerangs are booming. 22% of young adults lived at home with their parents in 2010 — that’s up from 16% in 2000. Is this just the new economic reality, or is there something we can do to reverse the trend?

Discuss on Facebook.

Money Talk With Kids Doesn’t Teach Much

Money Talk Is Cheap Without Ownership And ExperienceMoney talk with your kids is cheap without ownership and practice. Lynne L. Finch, author of the No-Cash Allowance, explains why in this short post.

Discuss on Facebook.

The Importance of Financial Education

The previous pick notwithstanding, stories about family members can be powerful, memorable vehicles for communicating critical money values to your kids. Even the simplest stories can be compelling. Here’s an excellent example on the topic of living within your means and resisting material temptations. Javier Storch, a junior in high school, writes about the first car his father bought in America and how his father’s choice differed radically from that of his friend’s. One man chose the short term dream. The other man chose the long term dream. A wonderful personal parable about the repercussions of immediate gratification. Read it here.

Discuss on Facebook.

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Financial Education: If Not You, Who? Family Finance Picks of the Week #60

This week, it’s three picks, three questions:

  1. Your kid’s financial education: if not you, who?
  2. Are we creating a generation of entitled kids?
  3. Your kid’s allowance: do you divvy?

Financial Education: A Job for Teachers or Parents?

Financial Education: If Not You, Who?Is it up to schools or is it up to parents to teach kids personal finance?

Dan Kadlec from Time’s MoneyLand recently hosted a panel on that classic debate. Professor Annamaria Lusardi argues: “The answer is no, this should not be left to parents.” She claims it’s for the same reason we don’t ask parents to teach physics. But, educator Brian Page points out: “Money is personal. This can be threatening. You have to approach parents as partners.” Good point — money and values are intimately intertwined, and that makes personal finance a stickier topic than say math and physics. Also, the fact is, parents are the main source of the funds for kids. For habits to stick, kids need to practice on a regular basis with real money.

Ideally, both parties would play a string role in a child’s financial education with an emphasis on concepts by teachers and an emphasis on regular application/practice by parents. At FamZoo, we’re applying mobile and web technology in an attempt to significantly lower the bar for parents to be effective money mentors to their kids. That doesn’t obviate the need for getting financial literacy in our schools, but we simply can’t afford to wait around for that to happen either. Otherwise, as per the end of the article, we may be Waiting for Godot.

Read more quotes and commentary here.

Related FamZoo Activity: See how a Virtual Family Bank helps parents be better money mentors.
Discuss on FaceBook.

Entitlement: The New Childhood Epidemic

Entitlement: The New Childhood Epidemic?Are today’s parents creating a generation of entitled kids? Amy McCready of Positive Parenting Solutions suggests the following antidotes to the entitlement epidemic:

  1. Pause the praise
  2. Be the bad guy
  3. Shut down the ATM

We can certainly help with that last one. Read Amy’s advice here.

Related FamZoo Activity: Set up a specific allowance.
Discuss on FaceBook.

How to Raise an Entrepreneurial Kid

What Allowance Splits Do You Use With Your Child?When it comes to allowance, do you divvy?

Jennie writes a column called “Ask the Mompreneur.” Last week, she interviewed Ginger Wagoner who revealed one of her keys to raising an entrepreneurial kid: divvying up allowance. To reinforce the importance of “budgeting, thinking ahead, prioritizing, and even giving back to the community,” Ginger divvies up her 10 year old daughter’s allowance into 5 categories: spending, gifts, school supplies, savings, and donations. Read more here.

Do you do allowance splits? If so, do you dictate the categories and the split percentages? Maybe a middle ground? I like to say to the kids, “Hey, we’re going to divide your allowance or chore payments between spending, saving, giving (or whatever categories make sense in your family) — what percentages would you like to pick for each?“ In other words, the parent sets the high level guidelines like the split categories, and the child picks the percentages (as long as each is north of zero!) based on an informed conversation. That’s worked well in our family so far.

Related FamZoo Activity: Adjust allowance splits.
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Talking Kids and Money on Bobblehead Dad Radio with Jim Higley

A couple weeks ago, Jim Higley invited me to be on Bobblehead Dad Radio to discuss kids and money. In case you missed it, you can listen to it on Jim’s radio page or right here:

Prefer to browse through the transcript or jump to a topic in the podcast? Here’s a list of topics with associated start times within the audio stream:

00:00 Introduction

Jim Interviews Bill on Bobblehead Dad RadioJIM: Hi everybody, this is Jim Higley. Thanks for joining us right here on Bobblehead Dad Radio.

So when my oldest son was born, someone gave him a cute little piggy bank. It was silver, and I remember putting that on a shelf in his nursery and thinking of those precious moments that he and I would have years down the road when he’d pull that little piggy bank off his shelf and shake loose some coins so we could go out maybe to the candy store and buy some candy or maybe a coveted baseball card. Oh man, did I go into fatherhood with nothing but Hallmark moment ideas in my head.

Well, today that little boy is now 23 years old. He’s out of college, working, has credit card bills and like so many other young adults, he’s facing the realities and difficulties of managing his own money. You see, in between those two moments in our life — the moment when the little boy with the piggy bank in his nursery and today when he’s an adult managing his own finances, there were a lot of teachable moments. A lot of opportunities for the parent to teach him. And the same with his brother and sister. To teach them all about money. And it’s really one area of parenting I wish I could have a “redo.” Because I now can see how critically important it is to teach small children about money — about managing money, about saving, about spending, and for me and my family, about charity.

So, today, we’re going to explore this topic. Kids, money, spending, saving, and charity. And we’re joined by a guy who knows a lot about the subject. We’ve got Bill Dwight who is Founder and CEO of FamZoo. It’s an online virtual bank that helps parents teach their kids about good personal finance. It’s pretty neat. So neat that the product won Best of the Show at last year’s FinovateFall — a conference in New York City highlighting financial technology. And FamZoo was listed next to FourSquare in Doreen Bloch’s book The Coolest Startups in America. Very cool, very impressive. But before we’re gonna talk about some of those cool things that Bill’s brought to the market, we’re just gonna talk to him as a dad of 5 kids.

Bill, welcome to the show.

BILL: Hey Jim, thank you for having me.

JIM: Absolutely. OK, so before we start, walk us through the ages of your kids right now.

BILL: Oh boy, let’s see if I can remember them! I know the youngest is 10. Quintin.

JIM: That’s a good starting point.

BILL: We do have five and we kind of ran out of names, so we gave him a numeric based name index with Quintin. And then we have two in high school and we have two college-age kids. So, 22 down to 10.

JIM: So you and I have some similarities. We’ve got that spectrum of younger kids. You have one, Quintin’s a little bit younger than my youngest, but you and I kind of represent that full spectrum of children who’ve left our house and are kind of quasi on their own. So let’s turn this into a show for all those moms and dads out there — especially the ones with younger kids who are scratching their heads about this topic thinking, how do we best help our kids understand about money? So, there’s so many topics I want to talk to you about in terms of controversial things: allowances, yes or no? Do you pay for this, do you pay for that? But before we do this, let’s provide some context for our listening audience about what your journey’s been in terms of how you’ve handled this with your family and how the product FamZoo has come to be.

03:35 The gap between the piggy bank and the real bank.

The Gap Between The Piggy Bank and the Real BankBILL: Absolutely. We started exactly as you described in the intro with a piggy bank and that’s where everyone starts and usually at some point they end up at a real bank. There’s just an enormous gap between those. And so as our kids were growing up, we were looking for some way to get some sort of hands on personal finance experience to fill that gap before they went off and made mistakes in real financial institutions. So we start with the piggy bank and when you’ve got 5 rambunctious kids, the piggy bank is not your safest place to keep your money sometimes.

JIM: Exactly, yep!

BILL: You know, there might be a little theft going on there! And so somewhere in there when our oldest kids were getting into probably middle school. You know, you talk about do-overs, the nice thing about having a lot of kids is you get another chance...

JIM: You get an automatic do-over, that’s true

04:30 Why parents need to be involved.

Kids Aren't Learning Personal Finance in the SchoolsBILL: So by the time our oldest two were getting into middle school, I’m like “boy, I really need to get a little more systematic here.” It kind of dawned on my wife and I that “gee, we need to teach our kids personal finance, and nobody else is gonna do it!

JIM: Right.

BILL: And, furthermore, even if they were doing it, in schools, money and values are so intimately intertwined that the families really need to be involved one way or another.

JIM: Right.

04:51 The virtual family bank concept.

Virtual Family BankBILL: So I sort of got this idea which I thought was original but it turns out it’s not original — there have been books written about the notion of running your own family bank where mom and dad are the bankers and you’re just being a little more systematic about tracking things. In fact, there are two really terrific books — one is The First National Bank of Dad written by David Owen.

JIM: OK, I’ve heard of that, yeah.

BILL: Another is The No-Cash Allowance written by Lynne Finch. I think they’re wonderful books and they describe the concept. You know it’s funny as parents we always think we discover everything ourselves and then realize that these concepts have been around forever. It’s basically just you’re keeping track of what you “owe” you kids. We can talk about income sources for your kids — whether it’s allowance or chores or whatever or just outside jobs — but the important thing in my mind is that they have some money that they can earn and call their own and then make decisions with.

JIM: Right.

BILL: So, instead of keeping crumpled dollars in a piggy bank or in your sock drawer, the idea is, hey, introduce your kid to the notion of a bank. What does a bank do? A bank takes your money and keeps track of how much they owe you. So, when you get your allowance, instead of you and me handing over a dollar, or worse trying to find 78 cents (or whatever the amount is that I’m giving them for a chore or whatever), instead of wrastling with coins and stuff, I just sort of write it down in a ledger. I just automatically deposited — just like a parent gets their paycheck — whatever the payment was, and the kid gets used to managing their income as a number. “This is how much I have the right to spend.”

06:35 Allowance? Chores? Jobs?

The Allowance QuestionJIM: I want to interject one thing here, too. I want to make sure moms and dads who are listening to this are totally aware that neither you or I are saying “you need to give your kids allowances a 100 percent.” To me, the main message is, hopefully moms and dads, you need to teach your kids how to manage money. How your family sets up its value system and however you help your children earn or receive money is up to you. That’s an individual decision, but your kid will be a more knowledgeable child and better equipped to get into adulthood and even teen years if they understand these concepts of money, right?

BILL: Yep, precisely. For me the whole debate about: Do you give them an allowance? Do you link it to chores? Do they just do outside jobs like babysitting or whatever? To me, that’s an interesting set of discussions but it’s not the critical thing. Decide what makes sense for your family, but make sure your child has some control over some money that they can make spending decisions with and more importantly spending mistakes with.

JIM: Right.

BILL: I can lecture till I’m blue in my face about the fact that my daughter probably shouldn’t buy that iridescent chiffon gown from Nieman Marcus for the prom — that she’ll probably regret spending that much of her money on it. But if she has a clothing budget and she chooses to make that decision and then learns toward the end of the school year that she has to go cold-turkey on clothing spending for 4 months, that’s a way more compelling and memorable experience than Dad’s blustering about “You’ll never wear that dress again!”

JIM: Yeah! Like you’ve said before, these are teachable moments. The other thing I just want to throw out too, is back to the topic of: Do you do allowance? Do you not do allowances? I’ve done it all. Really. I’ve got older kids that I was much more rigid with. Very detailed programs where they’d earn a nickel for doing this chore, then a quarter and they’d lose a quarter. It was so complicated it made my head spin. But, and we can talk about how exhausting that is later, truthfully, especially for my oldest son’s personality, it kinda worked. He likes that kinda stuff. He’s a very mechanical kind of kid. That whole concept doesn’t work for my little kid — the youngest.

BILL: You mentioned a couple things that are really important here. One is age. The opportunity for income for a 6 year old is dramatically different from the opportunity for income for a 16 year old. One of my sons, Will, is a lifeguard. He’s old enough to go out to a local country club and be a life guard. That’s an income source, so I don’t need to pay him an allowance. But our 10 year old, there aren’t a lot of jobs out there for a 10 year old. But some parents are extremely creative in creating jobs for their kids, and I think that’s a wonderful idea. But the point is that this is a very age dependent thing. I think that allowance is particularly useful if you want to use it for younger kids where they don’t have these other opportunities.

JIM: To me one of the most complicated things as a parent — and this is especially as kids get older — when they’re littler, whether you give them allowance or not, in my opinion, I don’t think it’s a huge deal because you’re dealing with little numbers, you’re not dealing with big dollars. To me where it gets complicated as a parent and as a mom and dad is when they get a little bit older and suddenly they need a lot more money, supposedly, for kinda just the social part of their life. They go with friends and they want money to go get ice cream or go to the movies. And suddenly you have to wrap your head around as a parent (a) what can I even afford and (b) what am I willing to and not willing to just give to my child. Do they have to earn it? To me that’s a really complicated decision.

10:59 It’s really about ownership, constraints, and management.

Prom Can Take a Big Bite Out of That Clothing Budget!BILL: To me, the most important thing, regardless of how much you force them to earn externally vs how much you give them, is that they’re operating against a constraint.

JIM: Ah.

BILL: I like to take an area of spending that a kid is very passionate about. It depends on their personality. For my daughter, it was clothing. She loves clothing, and that’s fine. But I want her to operate against a constraint so she has to make tradeoffs and decisions. If she’s going to get that Neiman Marcus gown, then she needs to make tradeoffs elsewhere and go cold turkey for four months or whatever to make it fit into a reasonable budget.

JIM: Right.

BILL: And what’s reasonable depends on your situation, your relationship with your child, their personality — all kinds of things. But everyone, I believe, should operate against some form of constraint so they have to make tradeoffs. And this all gets to experience. My whole point is you talk about the day you got the piggy bank for your son and then it seemed like in just a flash he’s 22, and he’s dealing with credit cards.

JIM: Right, and he’s stressed out because a lot of this stuff is new to him.

BILL: Right! And so, if you can run your own virtual family bank, you can create these real financial experiences like “buyer’s remorse,” like setting aside some money for saving and charitable giving, like saving for a goal. My son Quintin is saving up for an iPad right now. He’s like “Wow, this takes a really long time to save up for an iPad” if you’re getting this meager allowance and it makes him think outside the box about “how could I earn some extra money to get there a little bit faster.”

JIM: I want to toss out a comment here. Your comment about teaching your kids to operate within constraints is, to me, one of the most important things that I hope people are really listening to. That, as a parent and working with children, I fully agree is if not the most, one of the most important tools, probably even outside a financial discussion of knowing what their constraints are — what the real world is. In preparing for this, I was reading some little article and it was “the problem with today’s society is all of our kids know exactly where our money comes from: it comes from the ATM machine. When you need money, you just go get it!” And that’s really true. Many kids — mine included — sometimes don’t realize where money comes from or that Dad has saved money in order to do some of the nice things we’re able to do occasionally. It’s not just that it literally doesn’t grow on trees.

BILL: That’s a really interesting point, and I think one mistake that parents frankly make is sometimes they give their kids too little credit. Like I was walking to school with Quintin just the other day and he says “Dad, how does a credit card work?” And I’m like, “ohh ok,” and we talk about the concept of how it’s really a loan — a really crappy loan by the way. It’s cool if you pay it right away, but if you blow it, you’re gonna be in trouble. And we walked through even what merchant fees are. The concepts — you can simplify them. And they’re really pretty simple concepts. You don’t need to go into a grand detail. And he totally got it. He gets it. He’s like “hey, why at the noodle house do they just accept cash?” And we talked about merchant fees.

JIM: Interesting.

BILL: Then, my colleague Chris pointed out, “maybe they’re not paying taxes either.” But anyway...

JIM: That’s another discussion!

BILL: Which I actually had on a subsequent day.. I said, “Hey, Chris says maybe they’re not paying taxes!” The point is, he’s ten, and he totally gets this. And as much as I like to think all my kids are little Einsteins because of course they’re my kids, but they’re just normal kids. And they get these concepts. If we take the time to explain them.

15:20 Technology can really help parents.

FamZoo for the iPhone: Account BalancesAnd you know me, I’m really into technology. I happen to think that technology can really help parents because you talk to so many parents who are like “Yeah, I tried the allowance system, or the chore system. It started out great and then I forgot, or it was just too much of a hassle.” And that’s where technology can automate a lot of that.

JIM: I want to jump into that, but my personal testimony is, I was one of those guys. My oldest son was a toddler long before we all had laptops connected to us and iPads. I’d literally go to the store and buy big cardboard boards and make charts. And I’d stress out because I’d realize, oh my gosh, I’m out of quarters and I have to make an emergency run to the bank to get several rolls of quarters. And it just got complicated. Then, like you said, also having literal banks in the house — I’m embarrassed to say this, but I got to a point where I would steal his money out of his piggy bank to pay him, because I forgot to go to the bank. And, then it became this horrible nightmare of, oh my gosh, did I pay him back or not pay him back, but I can’t tell him I took it because, that’s not a good lesson — that you take money without asking. I was so stressed out, literally, after doing this for a couple years — or however long I did it — that I’m embarrassed to say I just petered out.

16:33 Physical to digital: understanding all forms of money.

I Get How Credit Cards WorkBILL: Well, Jim, I think that the discussion about physical money is actually really interesting, too, because I hear a lot of this comment “I want my child to understand physical money — touch it, feel it.” I do think that’s important initially when they’re first getting what a coin is, what currency is. But I actually think it’s imperative that they understand electronic forms of payment — they understand that this number in my spreadsheet or on my ledger or wherever your keeping this, represents real money, because this is how a lot of people get themselves into trouble. They start to think that the credit card is not real money or the ATM is not real money. I think the sooner that kids can understand multiple forms of payment and especially electronic forms of payment, the better, because that’s the world they’re going into. We’re not going to roll that back. They need to understand that.

JIM: Well, you know what? You have 100% in the last 90 seconds just changed my mind on something because I’m old school enough that I’ve always thought that you need to teach kids with tangible money. They got to understand exactly. And I know you’re not saying that’s not important.

BILL: I think that’s a great start.

JIM: But, you’re right, you really are right because I’m picturing especially my high school kid. We’re at a store and he sees a $120 dollar pair of shoes that he just instantly wants, and I don’t think he makes that connection in his head: $120, that’s the equivalent of X number of weeks of allowance. I don’t think he’s making that connection. And, you’re right — when I finally give in, I pull my credit card out, and there’s no money that he’s seeing change hands. It’s magically paid for and he never thinks about it again.

BILL: See this is where I would pull my credit card out. But first, before I even pull it out, Quintin would say “Dad, let’s check my balance. How much do I have? Oh, I have $130 dollars.” Let’s say its a $120 item. “Hmmm, do I want to spend this?” Now note how it’s “Do I want to spend this?” It’s not “Dad, will you buy this for me?” It’s like “Hmmm, I know I’m saving for an iPad and I’m really gonna torch that goal if ...but maybe I just want it, right?” So I would pay for it on my credit card or whatever, and then we would subtract from his balance that amount. I might be buying a bunch of other things at the same time and he might be too young to have his own banking account, a debit card and all that stuff. He’s 10.

JIM: To back up to what you were just saying. In the scenario you just painted with your son, you’re actually saying with your product, with FamZoo, your pulling up your smart phone and looking at balances right then and there at the point of purchase.

BILL: In our case yes, but you could do this with a paper ledger. You could walk around with a ledger that is “Quintin’s Account,” and you could just deduct right then and there. You might choose to do it with a ledger initially for a while to teach math. I just deducted 120 bucks. Now kids catch on really quickly. In my case, the thing that has impressed me so much in the last six years since starting FamZoo: parents are insanely busy! We all have a tendency to think we’re just the only ones, but as I interact with more and more families, that is the one truism.

JIM: Yeah.

BILL: Parents are insanely busy. So if we can give them some technology to make it really, really simple to run your own little virtual family bank while kids are young before they get to a real bank, then that’s cool. I don’t know about you, but when I do follow through and I’m systematic about teaching my kids about something, I feel really good. I feel like “Ahhh, I’m doing my job!”

JIM: It’s a home run feeling as parent when you know you gave them something, and that it’s actually something that is going to really last for the long haul. Tell us a little bit more about FamZoo then.

BILL: The progression was: I went from a piggy bank to a ledger to a spreadsheet and then — I’ve been in software all my life — so, one weekend when I got tired of my kids coming in and saying “Dad, what’s my balance?” I’m like “okay, I’m just going to bang out a web site.” So, I built a little private web site for my kids so they could sign in and see what their balance was, and then my wife and I could sign in and add either allowance or chore payments or whatever. We used this for several years, and I was like “Wow, this is pretty cool. I don’t forget allowance any more.” Because when I was doing the spreadsheet, I used to like 10 weeks later go “oh man, I forgot to calculate the allowance.” This thing just sort of grew. The other thing is that I got really interested in getting my kids involved in philanthropy. And philanthropy is like personal finance. Someone can’t do it for you. It’s like exercise. I can’t exercise for you, Jim. I can’t tell you “jim, I went out and ran two miles today, how do you feel?”

JIM: I wouldn’t feel much of anything. I’d probably feel real guilty, yeah.

BILL: So, philanthropy is really meaningful if they are doing something with their time or their money.

In our family, by the way, we happen to do a regular allowance, but then we got a little frustrated if they would blow off their chores, so we don’t have a chore chart, we have what we call a “chore fail” chart. So if they don’t do a chore, they actually get dinged against their allowance. That’s just the way we do it because with 5 kids, it got too exhausting to run around and compute all this stuff and we change it as the kids get older, but that’s the general idea that we use.

22:33 Numbers don’t nag. They can defuse the emotion.

Scolding Mom TigerSo being able to automate the delivery of all that is really nice. The good thing is that typically with personal finance, you move from quiet periods into some “financial moment.” Whether it’s my daughter tossing her cell phone at the wall and realizing “whoops, the window was there!” and breaking the window, and then me wanting her to feel accountable. The neat thing about having this virtual family bank is instead of a lot of anger and ongoing conversation about this episode, it was like “your gonna pay for the replacement of that window, and it’s a pretty straightforward: your wages are gonna be garnished.”

JIM: Exactly. There you go. Talk about teachable moments, yeah.

BILL: You can just let her account go negative, and have the allowance fill that back up over time. So, In the meantime she’s relearning the lesson each day as she’s foregoing going out with her friends for pizza or whatever. It’s like “no, I can’t, I’m paying back this window.” So it’s neat to have all that tracked. The nice thing about numbers is numbers don’t nag. I stole that from Lynne Finch from her No-Cash Allowance book. She has a great passage in her book where she says “numbers don’t nag.” It makes it almost — it sounds impersonal — but business like. It’s an agreement between the kid and the parents. And so numbers just have this way of being sort of calming. It’s like “yeah, that happened, and I’m paying it back.’ And the same with having a clothing allowance and a clothing budget. It’s like, that’s an agreement. And furthermore, kids crave responsibility and ownership.

JIM: I couldn’t agree more. So, taking this to it’s simplest form: at some age every child is ready to start to understand the concept of money and value and what you’re saying is with your virtual bank — and I’ll make it super simple, let’s say a five year old — I can set up basically a system, and I’m going to give Junior a dollar a week. As a family or as the parent, I set the parameters with my child — what the rules are of how that money is used. I might say “of that dollar, Junior, 50 cents is yours to do whatever you want — you can buy candy or whatever mom or dad agrees to — and 25 cents, you going to save for a long, long, long time because we’re going to save up for something special someday, and 25 cents we’re going to save to give to people who need help.” It’s a tool that Junior can also jump online with as well, right, and access his or her little account.

BILL: Exactly. So, to them it looks like online banking. They sign in with their family name and, in Quintin’s case, his name, and he sees his accounts. One little tweak that I’d like to make to that is: You talked about it like Mom and Dad say you save 50%. This is actually a great opportunity to engage your child in a conversation: “Hey, this is going to be your income source.” And, with a 5 year old, you might even start with no allowance and just say “your income is any quarters you can find that might fall out of my pocket on the couch, or in the car.”

JIM: Interesting. Yeah. Fun, yeah.

BILL: Because there’s always change lying around. Or, checks from grandma for a birthday and so forth. So, this is not just for wealthy people or people who spend a lot of money on their kids. This can be used with arbitrarily small amounts. The important thing is that your tracking and you create constraints. Anyway, so you might engage you child in a conversation that says “my only rule is that you have to split it these three ways. What do you think is an appropriate set of splits? 80/10/10? 60/20/20?” So my kids actually have different splits based on their opinions.

JIM: Again, a very good teachable moment and probably some kids will say “I think I should get 100. All of it should be mine.” But again, what a great way to get into a conversation.

BILL: Yeah, I draw the line at like 100. It’s kinda like you said for the spending one: they can buy anything they want. Okay, beer and cigarettes? No.

27:20 It isn’t just about managing money. It’s about building values.

Tiger And Cub: Up, Up, and AwayJIM: Right. Please. But I mean, in seriousness, what it does, as a parent — and I know you go through the same thing, especially as your kids get older — you’re having conversations that ultimately get to value systems and very personal ways of living your life. I cherish those moments as a parent. You know, when you have those moments in the car where you say “wow, I just had a great talk with my son that I wasn’t expecting.” This opens another door. This isn’t about just a neat tool to manage money. I think as a parent, it must open some pretty cool doors about values and what’s important. I love it.

BILL: The neat thing is that you don’t have to confine yourself to spend/save/give buckets. It’s your bank, you do whatever you want. Some people set up some amazing banks. It’s really interesting to look at them. Some people do a “tax account.” They say, x percent is coming out, and our tax account is saving toward our family trip to Disneyland or something like that.

28:22 The power and freedom of long term saving.

Long Term Savings is FreedomWhat’s cool about this is kids that grow up on this system like our youngest — the notion of some money automatically coming out of their paycheck is completely natural. What I was looking to do is: I had this really fortuitous experience working as an executive at Oracle. When I became an employee, I decided to participate in the Employee Stock Purchase Program. So that money came out of my paycheck and, you know, I never really thought about it anymore. Well, 25 years later, guess what contributes a lot to funding my company? That employee stock purchase program. That gave me the financial independence to pursue my own mission driven business. That’s what financial control is all about. You get to pursue your passions if you’re financially stable. Money doesn’t make you happy, but it can cause a tremendous amount of unhappiness if you don’t have it under control.

JIM: Couldn’t agree with you more.

BILL: And I was thinking, “gosh, I like my kids to have that kind of experience or realize the power really early.” And so we split between spending, saving, and giving. The spending bucket, they use for spending every day stuff and for saving up for things like that iPad — things that take a while to save for. But one of the buckets is Long Term Savings. And what is long term savings? In our family — first of all, I give them an insanely aggressive interest rate on their long term savings — 10% is coming out of their paycheck for savings and I give them an outrageous interest rate per week. And they’re seeing that on their dashboard. And the deal is: when they get their first real checking and savings accounts, I take what’s in that long term savings which has been getting that “Bank of Dad’ interest rate that’s crazy, and I deposit that in their real savings account. And that day — I’ve been through this now with the older kids a couple of times — they’re like “Whoa, nice windfall! Wow, that is real money and I’ve been watching it grow and now it’s under my control. ” It’s almost exactly a microcosm of the experience that I had with that Oracle stock program.

30:43 Wrap-up

Generic Business Card BackJIM: Well, great lessons for teaching kids, and clearly this is a product that can grow with them as they mature. We are at the end of our show. Where can people go to get more information on FamZoo?

BILL: Well, they can go to FamZoo.com, and that’s short for “my family is a zoo,” by the way.

JIM: OK — F-A-M-Z-O-O dot com.

BILL: And if you just want to participate in the conversations about it which I think are as interesting as the product — the product will save you some time — but you can go to facebook.com/famzoo and that’s where we discuss all these issues.

JIM: Perfect. Well listen, thanks for joining us. this has been a really fun talk and hopefully some moms and dads out there are starting to scratch their heads and think of some new ways they can start instilling some great money strategies for their kids. And, I appreciate your time, Bill.

BILL: Jim, thank you, and a great site you’ve got.

JIM: Folks, as always, you can learn more about me at my web site — bobbleheaddad.com — and while your there, I hope you’ll check out my blog and links to stories I write for the Huffington post as well as video contributions I do for NBC Universal’s iVillage. Keep checking back everybody, and thank you for helping us celebrate and explore the changing world of dad-hood.


Digital Allowance, Divorced Allowance, Dismantling Allowance: Family Finance Picks #59

This week’s three family finance picks are all about allowance again: what it’s for (with a short digression to rant about old-school cash-only approaches), how to deal with it when divorced, and when to stop it.

Here they are:

Deciding What an Allowance Is For

Teach Your Kids Now That Digital Money Is Real MoneyKJ at the New York Times Motherlode Blog follows up with more discussion on what an allowance is for. I love the commentary on how allowance — when used properly — can teach a youngster to delay gratification by resisting impulse purchases while saving for a specific goal. I also love the concept of shifting more and more expense management responsibility to older kids. Kids should learn to manage needs, not just wants.

The one thing I don’t understand is the insistence on using cash-only approaches. It seems so dated. I think the “Did you bring your money?” question should morph into “Did you check your online balance?” I think the concern about leaving a wallet “with weeks of savings behind on the bus” should disappear. Do you walk around with all your assets in your wallet or purse? I hope not. Do you always pay with cash? I doubt it.

Our kids are growing up in an increasingly digital world. They need to learn to manage their money as a number — a summation of balances — and realize that all payment forms, especially digital ones, represent real money that subtracts from their total balance.

Related FamZoo Activity: Teach your kids to manage money as an online balance.
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Parenting After Divorce: Giving Your Child an Allowance

Divorce Complicates AllowanceAllowance can be a sticky topic for spouses. Divorce can make it even stickier. Suzanne offers a collection of allowance tips for divorced parents. A key guideline is to be sure everybody — you, your children, your ex — is on the same page. As Suzanne says, “It’s a good idea to write down what you decide so there’s no confusion later on.”

An online solution like FamZoo can do that automatically. It can help divorced parents keep things consistent, well documented, and easily accessible from both locations — easing just a bit of the friction in this tricky area.

Related FamZoo Activity: Set up an online virtual family bank.
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When to Stop Kids’ Allowances

Teach Your Child to Manage ExpensesLynne L. Finch, author of The No-Cash Allowance (an excellent book), makes outstanding points here on the topic of when to stop a child’s allowance. There’s always lots of talk about how and when to wean children off allowance, but rarely much discussion of how to transfer more spending responsibility to them as they mature.

Regardless of where children’s income comes from and what percentage is supplied by parents, Lynne argues that kids need to learn how to incrementally manage more and more real world expenses as they grow through their semi-independent phase. Wise advice. Otherwise, we’re setting them up for a big surprise when they leave the nest. Without practice, they won’t have the skills they need to handle the transition smoothly.

Related FamZoo Activity: Teach your child to manage expenses.
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